Contributions by Bob Bagosy

Okay, it's finished! The quest to honor my son, SGT Thomas R Bagosy USMC is complete.

Tommy is buried at Arlington National Cemetery. We, his family, continue to live with this new normal.

My week started with my son getting married and ended with my father being buried with honor.

I believe that my quest to know Tommy was successful, but I still realize I will never know why.

Danny was a good Marine and veteran. He volunteered with the VFW and Vietnam vets. Here we are sitting on Santa's lap, way back in 1966.

There are a thousand individual events that occur where each family feels the loss. Things left unsaid; regrets for a life lost so young.

Tommy died of his invisible wounds on May 10, 2010 but he is always with us, especially every Marine Corps Birthday.

Tommy started his last day on earth by kissing his kids and wife goodbye, telling them he loved them.

I know if we had it any other way we would wish we didn't know each other as no one wants to belong to this Father's Club.

Tommy's death shook me so much that to this day I sometimes have a hard time functioning in my day to day life.

The hawk first showed up on Thanksgiving Day 2010 at our house in Georgia, which was 6 months after Tommy’s death.

Tommy served his Country well in Afghanistan according to the Marines who honored him at his memorial service at Camp Lejeune.